I went through a little bit of a curveball because something I was thinking about when you guys were talking is we’ll start with Roger, tell me something that you are currently doing that is focused on you like something that is all about you something that is helping you right now.
You know, for me still it’s my it’s my physical journey. You know, I I’m, this year even more dedicated, you know, when I got into this year, it kind of threw me off a little bit and then went back and, and it’s, it’s been it’s a part of my world that I’ve never really had, like I was a guy that I get a gym membership and I’d go and do the treadmill for 10 minutes and say worked out and go home and I never really knew but for me to be able to take a committed usually four days a week where I’m really pushing myself harder than I ever have, you know, and I just got done. I just spent the last six months train with a personal trainer that was a little bit psychotic and pushed me to places I never thought I could go and, and just to be able to take the time to say, my health and my body is worth it. Because what got me here was 40 years of putting everybody else’s health and needs before myself and realizing Well, I need I need take care of me. And so now that’s really what I’m doing. You know, I’m, I’m really focusing this year on me, I’m, in fact this I just this weekend, I read I readjusted my whole schedule. There’s some very specific things that I want to start doing in my life that are on Mondays and I had Mondays full of phone calls and mentor calls and team calls. And so I rescheduled all of them till the days now so that I could have Monday for me. And it’s you know, it’s really important for me to get back to realizing that I matter more than everybody because if I’m not good, nobody else is going to be taken care of got five kids that I gotta manage, and I’m not good and they’re gonna suffer. So I have to take care of me.
That’s awesome. That goes a lot with the whole mentality of taking care of yourself, like the self care mentality. And a lot of people use an analogy of putting the air mask on yourself before you put it on somebody else when you’re an airplane. So tell us what we’re talking about is, what’s one thing that you’re doing right now that is really just for you, that’s helping you to do whatever but really like, it’s like, what are you doing right now in this season to like, that’s really to help you.
Okay, so, honestly, the thing that that I’m working on is pretty much nutrition again, I said I’ve been traveling a lot lately. And nutrition is difficult to do when you’re all over the place and don’t really know what you’re what you’re doing as far as food and what your options are going to be. So I’ve never been really consistent with taking supplements or even just eating healthy in general have always had a pretty decent metabolism. The things that that you deal with a lot of people deal with in terms of, you know, having to be very mindful of what you eat. I never had to deal with that. Up until you know, probably the last couple of years, probably has something to do with the fact that I’m approaching 40. But it just, you know, it was something I wasn’t incredibly mindful of and so that is something that I’m starting to be very conscious about. You know, getting even more regular with my dietary supplements, LV you know, terrorism, PBS, all the things that that we have to help support those those systems in the body I’ve I’ve gained a better level of consistency then I really have ever had with supplements which is a good thing I’m still working on the the finding time for me like hearing what Roger said of being able to set aside a specific day. You know, all of us as business owners, we understand that you know, that’s, that’s really difficult to do because when you’re dealing with a lot of different people and a lot of other people’s schedules in addition to like parenting and all that it’s like okay, when can you really find that time for you? And you know, I’m still again while my my business focus is a little bit different, it’s still very much the same or I’m, you know, looking to build and and have new clients come on and, you know, maintaining current client relationships and things like that. And so, it’s, you’re kind of on 24 seven, a lot of times and I have never been very good at self care. I’m I’m very much a Dewar, I’m very much a giver. I’m very much a servant Can you can attest to that. I’ve never been really good at self care. So in terms of what I’m doing now, I have to say it’s it’s going to be the nutrition, focusing on on eating right. I’ll get that that knee time self care thing down at some point.
Nutrition is like super critical to actually self care, I think. So before I asked Kenny, like what he’s doing now, I totally forgot to say this part. The reason why I wanted you on the podcast is I just have admired you so much of how well you support other people. I mean, like in in our business, you’ve been super supportive. And watching you with Stephanie and how supportive you are in that. I admire that a ton. I just respect you a lot. So that’s one of the reasons why I had you on here. And then I wanted to ask you, what is something you’re doing right now? For you?
That’s a great question. So, I, Stephanie and I went to a conference, gosh, was a few months ago. And it was all about three different things. It was about having a hot marriage. Having so that’s, I’m all about that. So, you know, being homeless staff. That’s right up my alley. We’re married 25 years this year. So you know, and we’ve had overall I would say, really good marriage. We’ve had very few really serious situations throughout it, but you know, we’ve really worked on just really communicating so just staying focused on that. getting out of debt is the second part of the conference. And the The third is really about like learning how to invest and so invest on me Things like that. So one of the things I came back said like fine, two or three things. So I came back and I said, let’s try to, you know, lower all of our debt from, you know, his house and car and credit cards and things like that. And then also invest in my my health. And so I put up a calendar and I said, I’m going to I’m going to try to run and do sit ups and push ups every day. And so I did it for like, 20 straight days. And then we had to go, we went to convention, and that really made it hard after that, but I really focus on that got the kids involved, and we really did it. And I, I’m trying to kick that back. And we’ve done it a few times since then. But that’s been like that was really helpful. And then I also put up on the wall. It’s like right near where the coffee maker so everybody can see it. And it was like, here’s how much we owe on the house. Here’s how much we own our cars. Here’s how much we own credit cards. And here’s the total. And here’s what our FIFO score is every month, you know, so then we can look at that and see where we’re at and just be transparent about it. And so it’s really interesting because when I started putting that up, it’s a Funny how the kids stop asking me for trivial things. When they saw that list, they started to go, maybe I should ask for that, you know, let’s try and get this number lower. So we can actually do more fun and, you know, bigger things for the family and stuff. And in the side note of that is, you know, my two oldest daughters, they both saved like a couple grand each, all on their own in this last little bit, one of them had a, they got a CD, like at their bank, and it just matured after a year. And so how much you said, She goes, I got over two grand in there. I’m like, go Good, good job. So, so I’m really I’m glad to see that there’s that kind of trade off, you know, and these kinds of things. So that’s kind of I guess, you would say what my main focuses obviously it ebbs and flows and and even in the conference that I went to, they said, you know, you really need to come back every it’s like seven or eight weeks, because after about that much time you’ll start to fall off the wagon. You know, it’s like accountability, right? Just like are in all of us who don’t Tara or your own business. If someone’s not holding You two things, eventually go back to, you know, your normal survival mode and you can survive, but you won’t thrive. Right. And so I’m starting to see that that’s we need to have another kick in the pants.
That’s really interesting because growing up, finances was something my parents wouldn’t share with me We didn’t talk about. So I didn’t know anything literally until I got out of the house at 20 in the military, had to learn real quick what it meant to balance a checkbook. So that’s pretty amazing that you’re sharing that with your kids and you’re putting that up. And obviously, it seems to have a positive side effect. So that’s, that’s not an easy decision to make either.
Yeah, it’s one of these things I’ve said to people over the years, you know, working at church, which is lots of relationships, you know, for we did that I did that with toss for 10 plus years and I worked at the church for 18. One of the things I noticed most of the reasons they would come in and need to meet for accounts Pastor whatever was finances and relationships, and you know, a lot of people when you go to college or high school, no one teaches you about finances. No one teaches you about relationships. I mean, there’s no classes on this stuff. And these are like the things everybody deals with on a daily basis. And it’s, and it’s the biggest reason why relationships fail is money, really, you know, it’s like misunderstandings and money. And so the fact that we found something that, you know, in a sense, keeps it in front of you, I think, is a really important thing that people you know, if I could just recommend to people figure that out, share it transparently with your kids, share your mistakes, ask forgiveness a lot when you need to, and they’ll respect you more.
Yeah, I make a lot of mistakes and my kids are well aware of it.